"I believe that a different therapy must be constructed for each [person] because each has a unique story." Irvin Yalom, MD Despite our similarities, each of us possess a unique inner world and therefore requires an individualized therapeutic approach. This said, my practice philosophy relies heavily on the techniques of Emotion-Focused Therapyand Relational Psychotherapy.
Emotion-Focused Therapy (EFT) Emotion-Focused Therapy is oriented around the idea that our feelings are our Truths - and that thinking or acting our way out of feeling can be helpful at times, but only takes us so far. Feelings can provide us with important information about our underlying needs - and when we learn to ignore or judge our feelings, we miss this important, life-enriching information. Of course, we often come to therapy to get relief from very painful emotions that we wish would stop. From an EFT perspective, the only way that we can transform or change these very painful emotions is by confronting them during therapy. When we can feel our feelings, they are accessible for transformation. This can include various EFT techniques, including some of my favorites: Focusing, Self-Critic Splits, and Self-Compassion.
To learn more about EFT and working with feelings, watch this educational film created by psychologist Anne Hilde Vassbø Hagen and the Norwegian Institute of Emotion Focused Therapy.
Relational Psychotherapy Many of our struggles are born out of relationships, and so require the context of relationships for healing. Although the therapy relationship is a limited one, I view it asa "real" relationshipinvolving two people. This means that as your therapist, I will be doing ongoing self-evaluation of how my own values, identity, and psychology might be influencing the treatment process. If I make a mistake, I will openly admit it and invite conversation around it. I view this process as potentially healing, given that in past relationships, we may have been hurt - and then met by defensiveness and attack rather than acknowledgement and repair. I view myself as"collaborative healer"- joining you on your journey toward healing.